Rejection is God’s Protection

“No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.” –Hebrews 12:11

Rejection is something everyone experiences. To be quite honest, it’s not the most pleasant thing to go through. It most definitely hurts, but there is a reason it happens to us. I’ve experienced rejection in various aspects of my life, but the one that hurts the most was being rejected in relationships. When you don’t know your worth, when you don’t know what you deserve, when you don’t know how valuable you are, when you don’t know what you have to offer, when you don’t know whose you are, you will SETTLE for anything.

For as long as I can remember, I have settled when it comes to relationships. I was insecure and I just wanted to be loved. So, I settled and allowed any boy who said I was “cute” or “pretty” to have access to me. I gave my all to this person I was in a relationship with, but in doing that, I ended up hurt. He ended up leaving my life and I had no idea why. I was being rejected left and right. After my “relationship” my freshman year of college and after experiencing heartache, pain, depression and brokenness, I came to the realization that God allows people in our lives for a reason and for a season. Being in that relationship was my turning point. It was the beginning of my testimony like I stated in my previous blog. Two years later, I was in another relationship that lasted a little bit longer than the first, but it was still unhealthy and the relationship didn’t work out in the end. However, throughout the relationship I was blinded and I ignored the red flags and I wasn’t letting go even though I was slowly slipping back into that depression. God forced that relationship to end, and I was once again being rejected. God was protecting me from something I could not see. I can’t seek love from someone else when I didn’t love myself. The love that I was seeking in a man, I needed to seek that love from God because His love endures forever.

“Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces” – Matthew 7:6

In other words, do not waste good things on people who will not appreciate them.

Why does God allow rejection?

• Rejection is a wakeup call from God
• People who rejected you, dismissed you, neglected you actually did you a huge favor in life
• Being rejected allowed me to find my purpose, to find myself

Yes, rejection hurts, but not everyone is meant to be apart of your life. You are a gift and not everyone deserves it. You can’t allow too many people to have access to you. I was rejected by people who I gave my ALL to, but the only way God could protect me was to allow them to reject me. If I would have stayed in those relationships, I wouldn’t be the strong, independent woman I am today. REMEMBER, never cast your pearls before swine.